So What Do the Girls Say?


“The desire to protect wealth beyond a lifetime led to the concept of marriage.”


This is the instant reaction to the discovery that 53 percent of the children born to women under 30 are illegitimate.

The New York Times reported the finding on February 18, and the journalists who wrote the article did interview some young mothers in Lorain, Ohio, to find out why they didn’t want to marry. Lying west of Cleveland, Lorain is a town that has lost a huge number of blue-collar jobs in recent years and where the number of single mothers is rising rapidly. Their explanations included the following:

  • They didn’t think enough of the father to marry him.
  • The father was reluctant to marry them.
  • The marriage probably wouldn’t last anyway.
  • Just living together was fine.
  • If they married, they might lose government benefits like food stamps and child care.
  • They were making enough money to provide for a child themselves.

The article went on to say that, in these economic times, men are worth less than they used to be. Of course that statement pertains to the men most disadvantaged by the recession, but it brings up a question: How did the institution of marriage develop anyway? Read Full Post »

I Just Hate This!


“I think that the brutal truth of the feminine situation is that

we’re backsliding as the result of a degree of disillusionment.”

No sooner had I posted my thoughts on the Catholic Church’s effort to deny access to contraception among Catholic women in the United States than other news challenged a basic premise.

That premise was that, since many Catholic women of independent judgment and means are reportedly using contraception anyway, many more would do so if they had ready access. However, two days after I posted my opinion, a Washington research group, Child Trends, reported that more than half of births to all American women under 30 occur outside marriage. Illegitimacy is the new normal, except among college-educated women, 93% of whom are married when they give birth.

Clearly, marriage is on the decline, but child-bearing is increasing in its absence. As an elder, I am dumbfounded by these statistics. What they tell me is that some form of arrested development is manifesting in the feminine psyche in the United States. Read Full Post »